He looks like an older Mark Zuckerberg — an apt similarity, given that, as with Facebook's inventor, Jeffries is the founder of his subject. Although well-written, this book is appalling and sad. The author, Neil Strauss, has ghost written some celebrity memoirs, and writes for Rolling Stone and the New York Times. Still, how would you feel about a woman who you have a lot in common with, but lives a state away and refuses to meet you in between? Because I have no idea what was happening but it felt realllllyyyy bad. But don't be surprised when it leaves, either.
Talk slowly and from your diaphragm. I've met horrible people but never sociopaths, but I imagine the experience is shocking, both that someone can live their life thinking so little of human interaction, that it's all a self-serving pleasure-based construct or whatever; and also because the attitude is near irrefutable. The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists is a 2005 book that explains the techniques and concepts used by a society of pickup artists living within the United States, written in the form of a novel instead of a typical self-help book. They need all the help they can get. It validated many concepts I have about friendship, group dynamics, and honesty.
Any self-criticism or sense of self-awareness in regards to the many questionable or simply idiotic actions he undertakes is remarkably absent. It's true that I love to hate and that would be reason enough not to drop kick this book into the nearest dumpster. Not a spoiler here, but the author reflects. Alternate between attraction and disinterest signals in a push-pull fashion until rapport is established. He is so shy that he cannot use a urinal, because peeing in front of other guys terrifies him. So full points for style no pun intended.
Social skills, like any skills, can be learned, studied, and honed. Always follow these steps in your pick up: Approach-Show value-Attract-Rapport-Extract There should be touch throughout. If a dude would say something like that to me, I would give him such a nasty stare down that his skin would start itching. This is why men dehumanize women. Losers like these existed since the beging of time. Actually strike what I said earlier: I think I just enjoyed to read about him crying. The first 5-20 minutes you should be qualifying her: busting on her, breaking rapport with her, and getting her to seek your validation.
It all sounds similar to the three points in the move the Tao Of Steve, but without the charm and some misogyny thrown in. They won't suddenly think you're beautiful, they will suddenly not care that you aren't. This nervousness or superficiality is a total turn-off. Strauss is one of those writers. But all true, from a guy a reporter who knows he'd be called out if he embellished or lied in the book. Eventually, however, Strauss finds himself rejected from the community, and learns that all the seduction techniques in the world don't mean much when he finds his true love. Jeffries met Neil Strauss in 2004.
You can hook her with stories, routines, and ball busting. I finished reading it for the second time in one sitting. My ultimate pick up artist book collection with a few added clangers for you to scratch your head at. After a few hundred pages I realised that The Game I spent the first 100 pages utterly confused. This book gives you insights into what women are attracted to or what they think they need. Then he never contacted me to make plans. So one must recondition the mind to erase negative self sabotaging traits then they can be themselves and spontaneous.
And this is the most interesting part of the book: Neil Strauss eventually catches on to the fact that the pick up artist subculture that he is a part of is really a community of men. Of course, this book was written in the early 2000s, when people had the spare time to spend thousands of dollars on workshops on how to talk to women. This soulless existence only increases their underlying self hate. It's a forum Jeffries has posted on. Jefferies was around long before The Game hit bookshop shelves. I imagine this is how a script for an infomercial reads; like Chuck Norris demonstrating some back-breaking exercise machine or Paula Dean pushing a spray-on chocolate sauce, this is a how-to-make-your-life-better-by-jumping-off-a-cliff type story.
Nonetheless, given my background, yes, it is true that I would find this all very fascinating, notwithstanding its lack of practical use to me now given my age and marital status. That is why I don't believe the events in the book. Keep in mind that these guys, in the book, are mostly operating in Hollywood. Remember women do not sleep with men who choose them, as this violates the anti slut mechanism. And then, what do you know, a picture with his wife, that could be his daughter, who is a model, not well know, but still, has the title.