I am an easily excitable man and I know what I am talking about. Remember to smile at least once. Being approachable helps to build positive relationships with other employees and fosters more open communication. Matt - Thanks, glad it hit the mark for you. Start with sharing some vacation pictures, or a story about your kids, or your dog, etc… Work your way up to it, and people will then start sharing information in return. By the same token, if you assume that people will like you, they will.
One other important factor is for the leader to be sincere. Take a closer look at your results and focus most on where your score is low. Although the ones who will are usually not the folks you want approaching you. They're not scared about being knocked back because they know their manager is open to their suggestions and will consider them fairly. Improving your approachability and sociability is going to take time. Dan, I am an extrovert and reading your post is helpful to me in understanding how my behavior impacts that of someone who is introverted.
A warm, inviting smile makes you feel like someone people are comfortable approaching. Walking around with a scowl on your face does not say approachable. Speaking of being welcoming… Expect People To Like You How many times have you seen someone and just could feel unfriendliness radiating off of them? Joel Mayward is a pastor, writer, youth worker, and film critic. Be more approachable in college by developing good non-verbal communication behaviors This can be tough especially if you are shy or insecure. You should see the value in all your folks and show them you do. In these challenging economic times lack of information may lead to incorrect assumptions about the healthy of an organization. We all have crap days sometimes, but the key is to have fun.
Her newest book, The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness has become a national bestseller. In regard to the listening, we should listen with the intent to understand, not listen with the intent to be understood. Do we feel good in their presence, or do we feel like that person just wants an audience? Laugh at their jokes, get excited with them, demonstrate that you enjoy what they have to say. An open posture means your shoulders are square and you are still. Approachable leaders do not advocate keeping secrets. Hi Lolly, love you blog and it is an interesting point to raise.
This is a simple way to make yourself much more approachable to your team. This boss looked the supervisor up and down, said nothing, and than walked away from him with is hand still extended. But conferences are a real challenge. You must embrace compassion and engage empathy. You may be bored and trying to keep yourself busy, but chances are, doing that will make the guy who wants to approach you back away because you appear too busy to be interested in a conversation with him. Jesus seemed to have people approach him all the time from all sorts of backgrounds and demographics.
You're right, presentation skills are not an indication of being a great relator. This can be difficult, because your natural tendency may be to look down or scrunch your shoulders together. Every now and again, look at him and when you do manage to catch his eye, use your girly body language to flirt. Her writing experience include technical articles, corporate materials, online articles, blogs, byline articles, travel itineraries and business profile listings. You want to make them feel liked in return. One of my favorite statements: Extraverts many times regret what they say. Nonetheless, your tips are very helpful and indeed useful.
Some maybe, but personally I think most engineers nowadays are extroverts. His life reveals that the more spiritually mature I am, the more approachable I am to people who feel far from God. Whether nuance, bad news, or something that might solve a manager's important problem, people bring things to an approachable leader that they would keep from a more awkward one, unless absolutely necessary often too late to be actionable. Step 6 that discusses listening skills works for both introverts and extroverts. Maybe I am bias since I am an engineer. Show them you care enough to notice them and you appreciate them.
The latter is just as bad because it signals Instead, you want to focus on them. You should also be able to show your individuality in how you dress, but bear in mind that extreme fashion and extravagance will put some guys off. Who make you feel comfortable? By the way, the best and only right way for men to smell, is using bay rum aftershave, much preferably that genuinely made in the Caribean. No matter the size of your company you can't be an effective leader if people are hesitant to approach you. Now turn that around and apply it to your own approach with people. Not sure I agree with this but I do realize that our world becomes more instant and people and resources become more accessible, transparency may be key to greater leadership.
Most people make the mistake of appearing unfriendly when being approached or when approaching others because of mistakenly believing that this makes them appear less desperate. Be intelligent and ethical in your use of this information, and give your people reason to trust you. If you follow this rule you cannot go wrong. We all have better things to do than listen to a recitation of why somebody is special and amazing. They may seem like womanizers from the outset, but really they too have fears about being the one to approach women they find attractive. Smiling to yourself at that moment will only make you appear more cuter and sweeter in his eyes! You don't have to go over the top.